The Advantage of Sex
Sex is an affirmation of life. By making sex a prominent part of itâplacing it on the top of our list of prioritiesâit helps us face daily challenges in other parts of our lives. No matter what struggles there are, we put them aside and establish a time and place to embrace desire and pleasure....
What Attracts You?
Itâs not always easy to grasp the complexity of our sexual attractions. Much that of what happens is invisible. The following exercise will help identify those specific characteristics and traits in others that excite the deeper psychological and spiritual aspects of our sexualityâthose that create the feeling of chemistry. Here’s an Observational Exercise: The next...
Why Smart Sex is Better Than Great Sex
I have been a psychotherapist in New York City for thirty-five years. During this time, I have counseled innumerable patients. In nearly every case, regardless of whatever problem that led someone to seek therapy, the conversation will inevitable turn to sex. Some patients express disappointment over the amount of sex in their lives, some are...
Cracking the Code of Sexual Chemistry
âSexual attraction is not at all a purely physical event. The soul is always in search of whatever will complete its desire, and our physical eyes are never separate from the eyes of the soul.â -Thomas Moore Weâve all had the experience of seeing someone on the street or in a social setting and feeling...
The Patient Who Cured His Therapist
And Other Stories of Unconventional Therapy By Stanley Siegel and Ed Lowe Perfectly sane people sometimes adopt odd strategies to cope with lifeâs vicisitudes, but the answer isnât always extended therapy. In this lively, thought provoking book, I look at patients and the dilemmas they face. Challenging conventional therapeutic thinking, I offer an unorthodox approach...
Choosing a Gay or Straight Therapist
Excerpted from: Lesbians and Gays in Couples and Families: A Handbook by Joan Laird and Robert-Jay Green, Josey-Bass, 1996 Chapter Two: Connections Conversations Between a Gay Therapist and a Straight Therapist Stanley Siegel and Gillian Walker In this chapter, we–Gillian Walker, a straight therapist, and Stanley Siegel, a gay therapist–join together in dialogue...
Unchartered Lives
Understanding The Life Passages of Gay Men By Stanley Siegel and Ed Lowe Through identifying the passages and signpost of a gay manâs psychological development. I demonstrate that cultivating creativity is an adaptive strategy required for social and emotional survival throughout the gay manâs life course. Forced from their earliest days to contend with the...
