Stanley Siegel, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, author, international lecturer, and former Director of Education at New York’s renowned Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. With over 45 years of experience, Siegel has developed an unconventional and highly regarded approach to psychotherapy. Stanley’s latest book, “Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life” is out now!

The Soul of Therapy

The Soul of Therapy

Our Problems Are Our Solutions. As I continue to teach and lecture among my colleagues around the world, I have become increasingly aware that most psychotherapists train and practice within a paradigm that sees patients’ problems as rooted in pathology. These therapists wait and watch for a symptom to see how  it  might fit...
Intelligent Lust: It's More than Just Great Sex,

Intelligent Lust: It’s More than Just Great Sex,

It’s Smart Sex. Step Six: Acting Out Sexual Fantasies If you’ve followed the steps of Intelligent Lust this far, by now you’ve gained an understanding of your true sexual desires and their meaning and purpose in your life. You may have even met someone with whom you share the likelihood...
Cracking The Code of Sexual Chemistry

Cracking The Code of Sexual Chemistry

Using sexual chemistry to guide you to the right partner Step 4 of Intelligent Lust: Cracking the Code of Sexual Chemistry We’ve all had the experience of seeing someone on the street or in a social setting and feeling an instant attraction. Our eyes lock, our pulse races, everyone else...
How Sex Heals

How Sex Heals

Embarking on the journey of Intelligent Lust. Scientists agree that frequent sex can improve heart health, build a more robust immune system, and increase the ability to ward off pain. Sex changes brain and body chemistry, boosting certain hormone levels that keep us young and vibrant. Sex can also alter...
What Do Our Fantasies Say About the Past?

What Do Our Fantasies Say About the Past?

Where do our fantasies and erotic images come from and what do they tell us about the deeper nature of who we are? We have been led to believe that our sexual fantasies are random imaginings, but nothing could be further from the truth. At their base lies fragments of...
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What Attracts You?

What Attracts You?

It’s not always easy to grasp the complexity of our sexual attractions. Much that of what happens is invisible. The following exercise will help identify those specific characteristics and traits in others that excite the deeper psychological and spiritual aspects of our sexuality—those that create the feeling of chemistry. Here’s an Observational Exercise: The next...
Why Smart Sex is Better Than Great Sex

Why Smart Sex is Better Than Great Sex

I have been a psychotherapist in New York City for thirty-five years. During this time, I have counseled innumerable patients. In nearly every case, regardless of whatever problem that led someone to seek therapy, the conversation will inevitable turn to sex. Some patients express disappointment over the amount of sex in their lives, some are...
Cracking the Code of Sexual Chemistry

Cracking the Code of Sexual Chemistry

“Sexual attraction is not at all a purely physical event. The soul is always in search of whatever will complete its desire, and our physical eyes are never separate from the eyes of the soul.”  -Thomas Moore We’ve all had the experience of seeing someone on the street or in a social setting and feeling...
The Patient Who Cured His Therapist

The Patient Who Cured His Therapist

And Other Stories of Unconventional Therapy By Stanley Siegel and Ed Lowe Perfectly sane people sometimes adopt odd strategies to cope with life’s vicisitudes, but the answer isn’t always extended therapy. In this lively, thought provoking book, I look at patients and the dilemmas they face. Challenging conventional therapeutic thinking, I offer an unorthodox approach...

Choosing a Gay or Straight Therapist

Excerpted from: Lesbians and Gays in Couples and Families: A Handbook by Joan Laird and Robert-Jay Green, Josey-Bass, 1996   Chapter Two: Connections Conversations Between a Gay Therapist and a Straight Therapist   Stanley Siegel and Gillian Walker   In this chapter, we–Gillian Walker, a straight therapist, and Stanley Siegel, a gay therapist–join together in dialogue...
Unchartered Lives

Unchartered Lives

Understanding The Life Passages of Gay Men By Stanley Siegel and Ed Lowe Through identifying the passages and signpost of a gay man’s psychological development. I demonstrate that cultivating creativity is an adaptive strategy required for social and emotional survival throughout the gay man’s life course. Forced from their earliest days to contend with the...

Meredith Monk “Facing North”

During the mid- 1990’s I served as Dance Editor for Showbusiness and wrote weekly dance reviews and reported on the dance scene in New York City REPRINTED FROM SHOWBUSINESS – DANCE REVIEWS -SPRING SEASON 1991 Meredith Monk “Facing North” By Stanley Siegel May 15, 1991 Meredith Monk places all of humanity on the tip of an iceberg...
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