What Our Sexual Fantasies Say About Our Past
The meaning and purpose of desire Step 3 of Intelligent Lust – The Meaning and Purpose of Desire Not all sex desires grow out of conflict, but for the vast majority of us, our sexual fantasies represent the story we tell ourselves to solve deeper issues and conflicts. We need to understand and respect these...
Decoding Sexual Chemistry
Who Turns You On Is All In Your Head. Weâve all had the experience of seeing someone on the street and feeling an instant attraction. Our eyes lock, our pulse races, everyone else disappears. Other times, attraction sneaks up on us slowly as we get to know someone. One day we realize that we are...
What Gets Other People Sexually Excited?
Common Fantasies Explored What Gets Other People Off? Step 2 of Intelligent Lust: Identifying Fantasies and True Desires (Part 2) In the previous column I asked a series of questions to help you identify the thoughts, images and fantasies that actually bring you to orgasm whether you are engaged in sex with a partner or...
What Brings You To Orgasm?
It’s really what you THINK. Step 2: Identifying Fantasies and True Desires (Part 1) Sex is far from the base or primitive instinct that we have been led to believe. It is our most complicated human need. Through it, we connect, communicate, negotiate power, give and receive pleasure, and sometimes heal our inner life. Sexual...
How Sex Heals
Embarking on the journey of Intelligent Lust. Scientists agree that frequent sex can improve heart health, build a more robust immune system, and increase the ability to ward off pain. Sex changes brain and body chemistry, boosting certain hormone levels that keep us young and vibrant. Sex can also alter our mental state by releasing...
Intelligent Lust
How smarter sex can change your life. If you’re like most of us, the subject of sex makes you at least a little uneasy, if not completely uncomfortable. Sex is shrouded in so much mystery and secrecy and considered so personal that it’s a wonder we can ever have an honest conversation about it. But...
