Stanley Siegel, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, author, international lecturer, and former Director of Education at New York’s renowned Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. With over 45 years of experience, Siegel has developed an unconventional and highly regarded approach to psychotherapy. Stanley’s latest book, “Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life” is out now!

The Soul of Therapy

The Soul of Therapy

Our Problems Are Our Solutions. As I continue to teach and lecture among my colleagues around the world, I have become increasingly aware that most psychotherapists train and practice within a paradigm that sees patients’ problems as rooted in pathology. These therapists wait and watch for a symptom to see how  it  might fit...
Intelligent Lust: It's More than Just Great Sex,

Intelligent Lust: It’s More than Just Great Sex,

It’s Smart Sex. Step Six: Acting Out Sexual Fantasies If you’ve followed the steps of Intelligent Lust this far, by now you’ve gained an understanding of your true sexual desires and their meaning and purpose in your life. You may have even met someone with whom you share the likelihood...
Cracking The Code of Sexual Chemistry

Cracking The Code of Sexual Chemistry

Using sexual chemistry to guide you to the right partner Step 4 of Intelligent Lust: Cracking the Code of Sexual Chemistry We’ve all had the experience of seeing someone on the street or in a social setting and feeling an instant attraction. Our eyes lock, our pulse races, everyone else...
How Sex Heals

How Sex Heals

Embarking on the journey of Intelligent Lust. Scientists agree that frequent sex can improve heart health, build a more robust immune system, and increase the ability to ward off pain. Sex changes brain and body chemistry, boosting certain hormone levels that keep us young and vibrant. Sex can also alter...
What Do Our Fantasies Say About the Past?

What Do Our Fantasies Say About the Past?

Where do our fantasies and erotic images come from and what do they tell us about the deeper nature of who we are? We have been led to believe that our sexual fantasies are random imaginings, but nothing could be further from the truth. At their base lies fragments of...
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Fit'n Style Magazine 02/2012

Fit’n Style Magazine 02/2012

Smarter Sex can Change Your Life Stanley Siegel is a psychotherapist, an international lecturer, and the former director of education and senior faculty member of New York’s renowned Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. His Latest book release, Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life, takes the reader on a journey through...
The Believer Literary Magazine: A Conversation with Stanley Siegel

The Believer Literary Magazine:
A Conversation with Stanley Siegel

Mr Siegel and I have been been continuing a conversation over several years about his ideas. I will be posting some excerpts from our conversations about Commitment over the next few weeks (March 2012). The photographs shown here are by Ryan McGinley. - Sheila Heti, The Believer Logger...Read More

Notes on Therapy

Early in my career I immersed myself in the then emerging theories referred to as Family Systems Therapy, with teachings from professionals such as Murray Bowen, Carl Whittaker, Jay Haley and Nathan Ackerman, who themselves had rebelled against the tenants of traditional psychotherapy. They shared the premise that an individual’s “problem,” rather than being purely...
The Honest Courtesan: Interview with Stanley Seigel

The Honest Courtesan: Interview with Stanley Seigel

Frank Commentary from a Retired Call Girl with Maggie NcNiell. Our civilisation cannot afford to let the censor-moron loose. The censor-moron does not really hate anything but the living and growing human consciousness. – D.H. Lawrence Last Saturday I interviewed Stanley Siegel, LCSW, a psychotherapist, lecturer and author whose popular sex blog Intelligent Lust was...
Sex Worker or Therapist?

Sex Worker or Therapist?

STANLEY SIEGEL UNCENSORED: The Shared Values and Techniques of Therapists and Sex Workers. “Sex Worker or Therapist?” was censored by Psychology Today on February 21 and never appeared online. Several years ago, a 62-year-old man had a consultation with me a few months after good friends had conducted, let’s say, an intervention on his behalf. Andrew...
Penis Envy

Penis Envy

STANLEY SIEGEL UNCENSORED: The Truth About How We Feel About Penises. “Penis Envy” was published February 14 on PsychologyToday.com and removed two weeks later. The center of a man’s existence is his penis. At the root of his self-worth is how he feels about the size of his penis and what he thinks about its ability...
Beyond Sexual Orientation

Beyond Sexual Orientation

Gay, straight, it just doesn’t matter anymore. Heterosexuality is not what it’s cut out to be. The labels that exist to describe us typically fall short of encompassing the fullness of human sexuality. Some years ago a patient came to me to deal with his sexual identity issues. When I asked James to describe his...
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